If I don’t know that you’ve had some sort of struggle with weight loss and fitness in the past, if you look tan, fit and perfect and are lecturing ad nauseam about weight loss and fitness, I won’t listen to you and will probably be predisposed to really dislike you…

stevehuff:

I think this every time I watch Morning Joe on MSNBC and Mika Brzezinski jumps on her fitness/diet high horse. It’s infuriating. I’ve seen Mika Brzezinski on the news for decades. To the best of my knowledge she’s always been blonde, fit and beautiful. I can’t deal with someone like that lecturing in any way to others about what they should do with their bodies. 

I have been mildly encouraged by a couple of friends to write more about my weight loss because I’ve been documenting what I did as I went along. I’m still not sure I can do it. If I do, it will be as a direct response to those who have never had to cope with dialing back the food cravings or struggle through even walking a mile. Good for them if they developed good habits early. Bully for them if they maintained them and never had to worry about a dress size larger than 7 or waist bigger than 34 inches. They’ll never understand the actual mechanics, the interior life of a person who has been fighting the flab monster most of their lives. In my mind, yes, that means they’re in no position to preach. Sure, tell us what you do to maintain the look. I wanna know. But don’t lecture or whine to me or other fat people (I’m not actually fat anymore but to me fat people are actually forever fat in our brains) about what we should do. If it seems simple to you and has always seemed so, great. But to many of us it is a complicated, difficult issue and always will be. It will always be hard work.

So yeah, shut the fuck up.

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  1. katklaw9 reblogged this from hikergirl and added:
    I don’t totally agree with this, but I know to some extent it’s true for me as well. Like the other day my landlord...
  2. adamfogle said: this is how i feel when people offer me advice on being in a wheelchair. “oh really? if i put my mind to it i can walk again? thanks. i’ll take that into consideration.” p.s. - try losing weight when you can’t walk. took me 2 years to shed 60 pounds.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.

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